I am a warm, intelligent, self reflective man who wishes to share his life with a companion through life after having completed many of my own professional aspirations.
I am living in Vermont, and, as much as I enjoy the rural and beautiful area in which I live and practice, I am still very connected to the wealth of experiences the city has to offer. I have a very strong avocation in music that goes back to my youth. I went to a liberal arts college that also had a conservatory (Oberlin), and, to this day, I've maintained a very strong interest in music and in playing music. I enjoy listening to music with others, and I very much enjoy playing music with others. The types of music I play are folk music (of all generations), and Brazilian samba music (bossa nova), but I listen to all sorts of music
I like being involved in my synagogue. I have done Israeli Dancing there, for many years, and I like being a member of the community. I am currently sitting in on the religious committee. Although I am very involved, being Jewish for me is much more about how you treat yourself and others than it is about keeping strictly to specific rituals although I am very well acquainted with them. I also play music in another synagogue in town once a month along with 3 other guitarists to do a folk service. It is a wonderful experience of celebrating the Sabbath and also being able to enjoy with one another the playing between us. The other players have become good friends.
I am also a movie buff. I am a member of a group that meets in Burlington on Sunday mornings (about 14 times a year), and sees films that have yet to be released and discusses them. It is a very nice mix of people. I grew up in New York, so I was exposed to a lot of theatre of all sorts as well as music. I go down to New York several times a year simply to go to the theatre (which I very much enjoy).
In recent years, I have felt the need to balance this out with more of a focus on my physical self. I am at the gym doing either aerobic exercise 4 days a week, or working out two days a week. I am not obsessive about it, but I have found it to be very important as a balance to my other interests, and particularly, a balance to my work life as a psychotherapist. I also have a canoe and I like to go cycling as well. There are many interesting bike paths in the area that I go to during the warmer months.
I will add more over time or as I get to know the person I am getting to know.

Intelligent, Loyal, Witty

Art Appreciation, Concerts, Cooking/Baking, Intimate Conversation, Movies, Music Listening, Music Playing/Singing

Boating/Sailing, Cycling, Jogging/Running, Tennis, Theater, Travel, Walking, Working out

Dog, Fish

Dog

Blues, Classical, Jazz, Operas, R and B, Soul

Deli, Indian, Italian, Jewish Style, Seafood

English

I am looking for someone who is warm, self reflective, enjoys life and tends to have a positive outlook on life. I enjoy humor, and I enjoy being serious so the capacity to be both is very attractive to me. When I say self reflective, I mean someone who is aware of themselves without being self conscious and knows themselves, their strengths, their difficulties fairly well and isn't afraid of being open about them. For me, I feel that a close, intimate relationship is much more likely to emerge when both individuals are able and willing to be with each other in this way.
I do not believe that compatibility is primarily measured by a matching of interests. In fact, I have met some wonderful people with whom I did not share all our primary interests, and found that I helped them grow as people as they did me.
It would be nice to have that in my life, but I don't require that. However, I think it is quite possible to have fun together enjoying each other's company doing something together even if it is primarily an activity that one person primarily wants to do.
I don't believe that you need to spend ALL your time together, and I don't believe that one needs to be open to ALL your partner's interests, but I have found that a healthy amount of difference between myself and the woman has made for a very vibrant experience.
I am not afraid of conflict, and I don't seek it out. I think conflict is a part of life, and I think this is where a sense of humor goes a long way as well as some awareness of one's own limitations. I believe that it is how conflict gets discussed that tells me much more about whether I am compatible with someone or not.
There are things for which I cannot be flexible. I am not looking for a casual relationship, and although I am aware that it takes time to get to know someone,
and that it is important to enjoy that time together, it helps when both people have a general idea that they are looking for the same thing. I am looking for marriage, and the depth of relationship that goes along with that. I enjoy being light as well, and I know how important that is to a healthy relationship, and I believe that it is possible to be both serious and light at once.
I enjoy playing music very much, and although it is by no means a necessity to a good relationship, it is a much appreciated plus. I have found it a wonderful way to connect and be close. I have enjoyed this both as a couple, and as part of a group of people.
I will add more over time or as I get to know the person I am getting to know.