I'm a compassionate and passionate person who values connections with people. My friends describe me as honest and open, motivated, sweet, sensual, stable, spontaneous, intellectual, emotionally expressive, supportive, collaborative, serious and funny, though not necessarily all at the same time! I'd like to get to know someone who has some of these attributes in himself, someone who wants to build a strong connection with the real you and the real me. I like the process of getting to know a partner's whole self and allow me to reveal my self too. Relationships excite me most because they allow me to learn about who you are on the inside -- beliefs, values, goals, dreams, strengths, vulnerabilities, the whole package -- and overall what makes you embrace life. I'm a college professor by day and a writer by life. I enjoy long walks, listening to music, having serious or bantering talks or long comfortable silences, going out on the town or ordering in chinese and a movie for a quiet night in. I don't idealize relationships and I work through issues through mutual respect and open communication. I value a partner's and my own independence -- we are a couple but also separate people. Want to discover more? I look forward to hearing from you!

Funny, Intelligent, Loyal, Optimistic, Quiet, Witty

Art Appreciation, Concerts, Cooking/Baking, Hanging out with friends, Intimate Conversation, Movies, Museums, Music Listening

Aerobics, Basketball, Jogging/Running, Theater, Walking, Working out

Cat, Dog, Fish

Cat

Alternative/Modern Rock, Blues, Classic Rock, Classical, Jazz, Rock

American, Chinese, Italian, Jewish Style, Pizza, Seafood, Thai

English

I'm looking for an honest, self-aware guy who has a passion for something in life -- whatever it is, I want to hear about it, learn why it makes you tick, and see how it's informed your life experience. I want to know that you are interested as well in what makes me tick, what my passions are, what makes me who I am. I expect straightforwardness, even if it scares you (it sometimes scares me), because that is something we can share. We all have skeletons in our closets and that's okay...it's what makes it real. Mostly, I am looking for a man who believes in himself and looks forward to the possibilities of growth and happiness we can experience together in our relationship, whether that develops into a friendship or a boyfriend/girlfriendship. While I do hope for the romantic, I admit, I also know reality: sometimes the chemistry is not there. And if that is how it turns out, that's ok. I'm up for taking the chance. If you are too, send me an email so we can chat